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What Is a Codependent Relationship?

Understand how over-responsibility, fear of abandonment, difficulty saying no, and measuring your worth through being needed can appear in relationships.

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What Is a Codependent Relationship?

By Adam Lukeman, LCSW

A codependent relationship often develops when one person becomes overly responsible for another person's emotions, choices, or stability. Caring is not the problem. The difficulty begins when being needed becomes the main source of security or self-worth.

Common signs include difficulty saying no, fear that honest disagreement will lead to abandonment, repeatedly rescuing others from the consequences of their choices, and neglecting one's own needs to keep the relationship calm. These patterns can exist in romantic relationships, families, friendships, or work relationships.

Change begins by noticing what belongs to you and what belongs to the other person. Healthy connection allows care and closeness without requiring self-erasure. Small boundaries, honest communication, and tolerating another person's disappointment can gradually create a more balanced relationship.

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