• Adam Lukeman, LCSW

The Right Therapist?


Your progress in therapy is the ultimate indicator of whether or not you are working with the right therapist. After all, regardless of how competent or skilled your therapist may be, getting better is what really counts.

It is important to realize that just because you may not be making progress that doesn’t mean your therapist is bad or incompetent. Therapy is highly subjective and is effected by the varying factors, including the needs, readiness, and styles of both you and your therapist. Maybe it will take longer for you to see progress because of the specific problems you are dealing with. Or, maybe, you and your therapist is just not a good fit. In the end, the only way to tell if your working with the right therapist is to notice if your changing for the better, and here is how:

You are working with the right therapist when.

1. You notice that you are feeling better. You notice that you are happier, at ease more often and more hopeful about your future.

2. You are solving your own issues and not looking to your therapist to do so for you. It is my belief that a good therapist guides you to become stronger and better able to solve your own problems. That a good therapist does not pretend to be a “rescuer” who is there to save you from your issues. Instead, your therapist is there to help you achieve insight into yourself so that you can make the right choices for yourself, and eventual end treatment and move forward in life.

3. You handle life’s ups and downs more easily and w